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We love each other. What do we expect?

A couple rarely arrives without baggage: ideas about fidelity, each person’s role and what a successful relationship should look like. Three ways to open the subject.

Follow the works in whichever order you prefer.

01 · Le Cœur sur la table

Start with a story

This documentary podcast is a way in if you prefer listening to accounts before taking up an essay. It also discusses friendship and family: choose an episode whose subject concerns you.

Created by Victoire Tuaillon · Binge Audio

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02 · Les sentiments du prince Charles

Go through drawing

Liv Strömquist examines romantic roles through comics. Popular-culture references give social questions a concrete form. Choose it for a drawn format with an openly feminist perspective.

Liv Strömquist

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03 · Réinventer l’amour

Take time to read

Mona Chollet examines patriarchal norms in heterosexual relationships. That scope is specific; it does not claim to cover every way of loving. It can begin a discussion of the expectations each person brings.

Mona Chollet

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A question to keep

Which expectation in a relationship feels obvious to you, and where did it come from?

You can keep this to yourself or discuss it. NUIT does not collect an answer here.

Another direction

The words we use in bed.

Consent, normality, expectations: we use these words without always giving them the same meaning. Two essays offer different ways to examine them.

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Lives we see too rarely.

From a Catskills house’s archives to older generations’ memories of love, this path brings together identities and relationships across different periods.

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We share everything. Even the bill?

Paying rent, organising groceries, finding time: shared life also happens in material details. Three works connect money with the expectations surrounding couples.

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Where do we learn to love?

Recognising a love story in a film can be quick. Saying what we expect from our own relationship may take longer. An essay, documentary voices and Mona Chollet offer three beginnings.

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Being visible. On whose terms?

Telling your story, publishing an essay, appearing on screen: visibility takes different forms. Four works change format and context without treating lesbian, gay and trans experiences as interchangeable.

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What if we made room for friends?

We find time for a couple and plan space for family. Friendship often fits into what remains. Three works examine its place in a life, the words we exchange and the families we build.

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